Dating someone with a kid
A healthy situation, where everyone is respected and boundaries are in place is the best you can hope for, and it’s then up to you to decide if you can handle it or not. You are the only person who needs to feel comfortable with your decisions and if you do, you won’t give some ignorant onlooker the satisfaction.An ex fades into the background of your past while an ex with whom you share a child will always be in your life. That racist old lady shooting daggers on the subway in “Save The Last Dance” is probably the only aspect of that movie that reflected real life. It’s not just about him; he’s got other (little) people to consider.
Granted, there are certain age brackets above and below my own that would likely warrant the immediate no-go in my books, but I generally take the “organic” approach to dating. I'm talking about kids: The unforeseen element of Millennial dating.These are his kids; he created them, raised them and sees himself in their eyes.Next in line to that kind of love is as good as first place to any other. While your input should always be asked for and considered, it’s not always feasible to make multiple stops.If you have a nasty jealous streak, this kind of relationship (like many others, I’m sure) will not work for you. She exists in subways, mall corridors, restaurants and the like. It’s all VERY EXCITING to someone who likely still believes married folk sleep in side-by-side twin beds. Every decision is weighted a little more heavily and means a little more.Gawkers need something to fill their day, and your relationship may fit their quota du jour. Serious “talks” won't happen when you’re two years in and ready; they’ll happen when they need to, right off the bat.